Day 01 – Something you hate about yourself.
Damn! Such a downer of a topic. Oh well. Tomorrow I can be positive!
Hmm…
what first comes to mind are the physical aspects of myself that I am less than thrilled with. I guess when I look at my physical body and wish that I could change something, I would probably just want to be in better shape overall. Toned tummy, arms, legs etc. But that is attainable (if I lay off the Noodles and actually start working out) and I don’t really want to spend my time ruminating on why my ass is not like Kim Kardashian’s.
How can a girl compete with that??
When I think of myself as a person, depending on the day, there is a whole slew of things I’d like to change– both tangible and intangible. To be better at math and science, to have clearer skin and fuller lips… you get the picture. I’m not going to lie– my self-image isa total and complete work-in-progress (much like this!). And yet, while I probably subconsciously on a day-to-day basis belittle and “hate” myself… it is really hard to express what exactly it is that I hate so much. Because I really don’t hate myself. I get down on myself a lot and I am constantly criticizing every little thing that I do, but I don’t hate myself. I can’t. I simply can’t do it. To really hate yourself…damn. Where is the hope? Why get up in the morning? Why even attempt to foster relationships with the people you know and care about? Now I’m not saying I am one of those annoyingly blessed people who are 110% happy with who they are and where they are in life. I make mistakes left and right but at the end of the day, when I’m laying in bed, trying to fall asleep, I don’t think “I hate myself”. I think of things I certainly don’t like– but I try to make it better. Accepting defeat and loathing myself sans cesse, well… I’ve been there. And it royally sucks. So! All this being said… I am going to amend this Day 1 topic (dangerous and rebellious, I know) to something a tad more realistic…
Day 1- Something you’d like to change about yourself.
Mmmm...pantsuits...
The other day, I was driving with my Mom to Sonic to get delicious cold beverages (cherry limeades ❤ ) and she made that the comment that I am intense. This instantly irritated me and I started defending myself before I realized that I was simply confirming what she said. This… didn’t sit well with me. While she meant it as a compliment in that I am passionate and that I care deeply about my friends, family and causes that I support, it still bothered me. The word used was intense– not something a little nicer or lighter like passionate or caring. But intense. I suddenly got this horrible image in my head of Hillary Clinton in a bright yellow pantsuit sporting a somewhat manic expression on her face. No offense to the former First Lady– I think she’s remarkable. But not someone I want to be compared to. Period. My “intensity” has been a problem for quite some time– since high school. I would rub people the wrong way when discussing the 2008 elections, health care reform, you name it. I was eventually put on a lovely little drug named Prozac which definitely evened me out. But the damage was done… I saw myself as a warrior, a crusader seeking to fight the good fight against all those ignoramuses who contradicted me. In short, I was reaaallllyyy arrogant and stubborn. Such a lovely, winning combination don’t you think? I’m much more dulled now– thanks to my sweet friend Zoloft– but every now and then, I can’t help but get all riled up about something like the Tea Party.
Taken Senior year-- during lunch.
I’m from Colorado freakin’ Springs. Home of Focus on the Family and Ted Haggard. I can’t help but get super annoyed (and maybe angry) from time to time… especially when I see blatantly racist propaganda against our President. Sorry, that was a wee bit of a tangent.
My point being before I started going off on the lovely 719, is that even now I can’t help but be intense about things. Which certainly turns people off of me. My biggest problem as a human being is that I care too much. Yes, I know. Sounds like a line out of Notting Hill or some chick flick. I feel things wayyyy too deeply and I therefore, internalize all the negativity directed my way.
Best. Chick flick. Ever.
Watching the news at night, I can’t help but feel utterly hopeless and defeated when I see pictures of starving children in the world. Especially when I know that things won’t change and that there will always be one more child dying of malnutrition. Even if I don’t like you, I get incredibly hurt if you don’t want to be my friend. When my heart breaks, it doesn’t break in two– it shatters and is reduced to dust and fine particles. When I’m really angry, I cry. And I say fuck a lot. And I say dumb shit. When I fall in love, I can’t help but imagine living my life with that person. Do you see what I mean when I say I feel things too damn much? It’s NOT a good thing. It really kind of sucks, actually. I have all these opinions and sometimes they just jump out like word vomit. I tend to inadvertently insult people with what I say. I can’t let it go when someone says “that’s gay” or “that’s retarded”. I literally have to say something because, to me, that is so wrong. And hurtful. I really wish I was more easy-going. I really do. I’d certainly have a lot more friends and a lot less bad memories. But I am who I am… ignoring that pesky voice in my head telling me to stand up for what I believe to be right never quiets down. So irritating. It’s like having my Mom in one ear and my Dad in another. I guess that’s what parents strive for, huh? Anywho, I am who I am. Cliché, I know. But true nonetheless. Obviously, I’d like to change it but I can’t. So I might as well embrace my intensity and hope to channel it (through things like this blog) so I don’t drive everyone around me absolutely bonkers.
I leave you with these…
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